There are lots of different ways to settle on the right person with which to have a no strings attached relationship. Getting things started can be as simple as having a conversation with someone whose company you enjoy, letting things get a little naughty, and seeing where things go from there. State things in that order for best results and then take it from there.
A casual friend, an attractive acquaintance, a hook up you hit it off with, an old college acquaintance, or an ex coworker are all much better bets. There are no wrong reasons to want to end things. Maybe you feel like one or both of you are getting too attached and you want to back off for a while. Remember, honesty, communication, and discretion are the keys to success here just as they are in any other type of relationship. Keep that in mind every step of the way and all will go well.
Your email address will not be published. You may use these HTML tags and attributes: That said, a no strings attached relationship could be a good fit for you if: You like the idea of a relationship, but are too busy or focused on other things to focus on a commitment right now.
You appreciate being able to keep your options open and pursue a little fun with other people you might also be attracted to. Always, always, always have protected sex.
Understand that honesty is imperative. To find the most current information, please enter your topic of interest into our search box. During Julia's junior year in college, she met a great guy. But she didn't want to date him. So I don't think I was psychologically ready to get involved again and at the same time, I was pretty horny," she recalls.
So after a halfhearted attempt at a romantic relationship, Julia and Steve decided that what they really wanted was "friendship with a little sex thrown in. Having regular, no-strings-attached sex with someone you're not romantically involved with has become such a cultural phenomenon that it's acquired a name --"friends with benefits. For Julia and Steve, it worked out well -- the "benefits" part of their friendship ended when she met the man who is now her husband, but they're still close, and get together for dinner when he's in town.
But are they the rule or the exception? Can "friends with benefits" really benefit both parties, or is there usually unexpected emotional fallout? Julia agrees -- and thinks the "benefits" went further than just enjoyable sex with someone she trusted. And it made me less desperate for a relationship," she says. FWB experiences can burn, however, and the friendships in question often end as a result. I know him so it won't be a random pickup that could be scary because I don't know the guy.
He was awful in bed, and he was boring and juvenile. One of you falls in love and the other one doesn't --or one of you goes into an it's-just-sex relationship harboring secret hopes of turning it into more. Alanis Morrisette may sing, "You're my best friend, best friend with benefits" in "Head Over Feet" -- but no one hearing the rest of the lyrics could doubt that the singer is in love with the guy.
Sometimes it does, but that's not something you should be counting on," says Tessina.