I already had a number of regular clients who were distance runners and I found them to be very reliable -- the best of my clients. He was trim, nice looking, clean-cut, but seemed a little nervous as I led him into my apartment. I tried to crack a couple jokes to set him at ease, then instructed him to disrobe and get onto the massage table -- underneath the towel, face down. The usual massage therapist schpeil. I left the room. When I returned he was in position, so I began to massage him.
I moved the towel out of the way and tucked it in slightly to cover his buttocks. Then I honed in on his legs since, from my experience with runners, legs are usually the trouble spot. His were long, lean, well-muscled. But instead of relaxing, he continued to seem uncomfortable, squirming a little on the table, shifting his head in the face cradle.
Perhaps I had been spending too much time on his legs. I began to massage his back and then his arms. But when I started to work on his hands, he suddenly grabbed mine and clasped them in his. Now, it's not like anything like this had never happened to me before, but ordinarily I would have quickly diffused the situation. What made it different this time was that a little jolt of sexual arousal had seized and overwhelmed me. Maybe I had been thinking about it too much, maybe I had actually already unconsciously resolved that I would do it, but the next thing I knew, I was on the table, naked and he was massaging me.
When it was time for him to leave, he asked me how much he owed me. Now it was my turn to feel uncomfortable. I knew that I had given him extra, a lot extra although we didn't have intercourse and I wanted extra. But I was too ashamed to ask for it. It had been easy, pleasurable even. I would move on from there to greater and greener pastures. I read the erotic services section almost everyday, until I found an ad I wanted to answer, an ad for an ongoing arrangement. He was offering a very tidy sum: I figured I had nothing to lose so I answered it, almost expecting to not hear back.
When I did, I was floored. We had an email exchange over the course of the next few days. He wrote that although he was for the most part happily married, his relationship lacked "passion" and "eroticism. I became even more intrigued. I sent him a series of incrementally more revealing photos with the head cropped off -- a virtual strip tease.
When he asked to see my face, I told him that I'd have to talk to him on the phone first. He called from a real number, his work phone. The conversation reminded me of conversations I'd had during my internet dating days: I told him about some of my art and writing projects.
We agreed that we would meet in public first and if I felt comfortable, I would give him a therapeutic massage. Through our communication, I'd grown comfortable enough with him to invite him over. I fretted all day and changed my outfit several times in anticipation of his arrival. When I opened the door, he had a jacket draped over his arm and bemused expression on his face. He was in his mids, very conservative looking, wearing a pin-striped oxford shirt and tidy, pleated khaki trousers.
At first I couldn't tell if he thought I was more or less beautiful than he'd imagined I'd be. But as we settled in to what would become our customary positions in my living room, I knew from the intensity of his gaze that I had him "hooked.
In a sense, I was "hooked" too. He was, although pleasant looking and mild-mannered, a little bit dull. But I loved playing the seductress, I loved feeling him in my power. Exciting him excited me. The fantasy spurred me on. We talked for a fairly long time and by the time we got down to the nitty gritty, I was very aroused. He gave me a huge orgasm, then a huge wad of bills.
When he left, I was incredulous at my good fortune. Alan came to see me once or twice a week for a couple of months and then without warning stopped calling. I never knew why he'd lost interest, but I found myself a little distressed: A friend who was a confidante at that time told me, "Dude's a john, not your boyfriend.
After that, I saw a few more men for both erotic massage and GFEs girlfriend experiences. They were mostly decent chaps, the kind of guys I might have known in real life, the kind of guys I might have gone to college with. Well, actually over scotch and conversation after a "session," I discovered that one of them did go to college with me. Never once did I feel that I was in physical danger, although I recognized the possibility. The internet afforded me the ability to screen potential clients.
For every ad I posted, I usually received a hundred or so responses. I could be very discriminating, so most of the sex was actually quite hot. I treated it as an extension of dating. And actually, most of the men I met on Craiglsist Erotic Services treated me with more decency and consideration than many of the men I had previously been dating. I didn't hawk my wares on Craigslist Erotic Services for terribly long, less than a year all told.
And while I understand that this is not every woman's experience of being a sex worker, for me at that time in my life, it was liberating in certain ways. It made me feel relaxed with my body and allowed me to be experimental with my appetites.
It liberated me from a part of myself that always tied or sought to tie sex to a deep emotional connection. It gave me insight into men and male sexuality that I hadn't had before. Dec 2, Posts: Whys Seniorius Lurkius Registered: Dec 5, Posts: This sets incredibly bad precedent. Jan 10, Posts: Spazmodica Ars Scholae Palatinae Registered: Aug 9, Posts: Feb 3, Posts: PhantomLord Ars Praefectus Tribus: Where ever you go, there you are.
Jul 18, Posts: Jul 30, Posts: Apr 14, Posts: Santa Cruz, CA Registered: Sep 4, Posts: SeriouslyTho Seniorius Lurkius Registered: Mar 18, Posts: Daemonworks Ars Scholae Palatinae Registered: Feb 2, Posts: Aug 3, Posts: Oct 17, Posts: Aug 25, Posts: Netizen2 Seniorius Lurkius Registered: And if the women voluntarily does this? It is an issue how?
Oct 28, Posts: Jan 3, Posts: Apr 28, Posts: There were plenty of transgender and male prostitutes on Craigslist as well. Prostitution and to a limited extent drug prohibition are two of the areas where the US still shows its puritanical roots. We are so rabid about the separation of church and state that in certain areas of the country a student can be expelled for bringing a bible to school, but at the same time we hold onto laws and regulations that have their roots in Christian concepts of morality.
Apr 8, Posts: Yeah, but its legal in some other areas outside the city. Jul 27, Posts: It sure is a human rights issue. Not to mention, from the earliest times forward, prostitution has been viewed as an important, necessary, and civilizing profession--almost every Western society excepting recent Puritanical iterations has at least tolerated it, and more typically celebrated it.
The work even makes a big distinction between temple prostitutes, who choose to do what they do, and women who are coerced into sex: Funny how a year-old story can make sophisticated distinctions contemporary Puritans and second-wave sex-negative feminists are too unsophisticated to make.
Despite feminist and leftist cries of exploitation involving prostitution, there will always be men with high sexual drives who cannot find enough sexual partners without proffering money.
Those desires will not disappear even if prostitution did; instead they'd be pushed elsewhere--for a percentage of men, they'd probably be channeled into sex crimes with real victims. Is that the desired outcome? Think of desired outcomes, then enact policy accordingly. Dude, you really believe that shit? There are children working in sweatshops "voluntarily", does that make child exploitation right? Attitudes like yours stinks pal. You don't have to agree with me, but I think you're a prick mate.
So a guy can't pay for sex he starts raping people. Explain how you jump to that conclusion. You really think that the state should profit from a person allowing their body to be abused Mate, you live in a world different than me.
Sorry, don't agree, never will. Legalization would be the first step to breaking the cycle of control by pimps. If a potential sex worker had the option of working for a legal brothel with an employment contract and clearly defined responsibilities and payment therefore, vs working for a pimp, I think a lot would choose the former option.
Yes, there would likely be a teething period for those already working and dependent upon pimps, but the market would tend to drive customers towards the legal establishments as to not risk legal problems, and that would eventually drive the providers there too.
From the limited amount I have seen about the Nevada brothers in the US, most of the employees seem fairly positive about their jobs and work there by choice. I myself wouldn't enjoy being farked in the arse for money, but I'm sure for some people it's a proposition they would consider.
Nations colonized by the English tend to have a lot more in the way of sexual morays compared to the rest of the world well, except for the Arab nations, but that's a whole other bucket of crazy. As far as your children is sweat shops argument goes, the big problem is that were not talking about children, we're talking about adults.
Children don't have the means nor the emotional or mental maturity to get out of forced labor situations. A woman or man choosing to work in the sex trade, regardless of motivation or background, is at least of age to be able to make a reasoned and informed decision to do so. As far as it only being damaged people or victims of abuse, I'd disagree, I think there are women who could see the potential for making a large income very quickly in a job that doesn't require a lot of training or education, and who would be fine with the messier aspects in light of those benefits.
Langdon Ars Scholae Palatinae Tribus: Nov 21, Posts: Ostracus Ars Tribunus Angusticlavius Tribus: Somewhere over the rainbow. Oct 22, Posts: Reduced yes, but the risk for STDs, the ones we know and ones yet to come is still there. Of course, and there is an increased risk of heart disease from eating red meat, an increased risk of liver disease from drinking alcohol, an increased risk of cancer from using tobacco products, and an increased risk of breaking bones or injuring muscles from participating in sports, yet none of these things are illegal.
Life has risks, and as reasonable adults, people should have the right to choose which risks they are willing to face to enjoy certain activities. Alfonse Ars Tribunus Angusticlavius Registered: Oct 9, Posts: But you miss the question of whether such work ought to be de-stigmatized at all. Should we, as a culture, accept this as a legitimate line of work?
And if we do, what are the consequences for doing so as far as our society goes? We're not talking about a normal job. At a normal job, there are things that your employer or your customers legally cannot ask you to do. And with good reason, as the power dynamics of any kind of relationship that blends sex with work are very complicated.
Right, because the only reason to be against legalizing prostitution is because parentage. I mean seriously, WTF is wrong with you? I can't speak for the rest of the world, but in the U. I actually knew a girl I went to high school with, who's been one of the D. The lower end street and brothel prostitution still exists of course, but most women in low-end prostitution are drug addicts who are not being coerced by pimps or anyone but their unfortunate addictions.
When they choose to be with pimps it's usually for easier access to and advances of drugs. This is sad, but they're only exploiting themselves, thanks to drug addiction. Treat the addiction, cure the problem. Where underage sex work and human trafficking happens in the U. And do you know the best way to get rid of low-end dangerous prostitution and pimping? To legalize and regulate and de-stigmatize the higher end. Then Ted McAverage won't go to an unregulated "massage parlor" or troll for a hooker, he'll just go to the safe, legal, clean, licensed establishment.
Maybe he'll have to pay twice as much, but it'll usually be worth it to him to avoid legal and disease pitfalls. Dude, for enough money you can facialabuse. It's a free market, and we should all be able to decide what we're willing or unwilling to do. Consenting adults should be able to do whatever they want to themselves, and to let others do whatever they choose to let others do as long as it harms no third party directly.
In the land of Bourbon and gold Registered: Jul 28, Posts: Take a valium, a few deep breaths, and then read what you actually wrote. The "arshole pimps who continue the cycle of abuse" get away with it because to have a pimp, you have to be doing something illegal. That means you can't go to the police and say "Johnny hit me" for fear of being arrested. When you just walk away from a job say, if you have no legal recourse against things your boss does because some Puritanical politician thinks your job shouldn't be legal , then you have no safety net to fall into.
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