He says he'd never stray, but I just don't know if I believe him. If he's feeling frustrated about not having sex, he should have come to you and talked about it instead of going down that route.
It's not easy to bring up sensitive subjects, but it's the right thing to do. I hope you had a deeper discussion about it. Maybe talk about alternative ways you can satisfy him. Also, I hope you made it clear that this is a breech of trust, assuming you're in a monogamous, closed marriage, and that this kind of behaviour is not to be tolerated.
Sounds like a dangerous path to me wether he has acted or not! It's especially suspicious that he searched an area he was traveling to out of town. You have to let him know where you stand with this issue and be very clear. This could get way out of control of its not dealt with swiftly. Sorry you're going through this. I can understand diff things work for everyone but my question is why search the area where you're traveling? If he's looking at the area where you live Just to READ then it makes more sense since Craigslist tends to localize based on where you're located at least my browser does.
Do you believe he hasn't already strayed? By this I don't just mean physically but even the act of communication is straying in my book. Another poster made a good point that if you are in a closed marriage this is a definite breach of trust. I'd definitely have a deeper conversation about it.
I looked at casual encounters once when I found out what it was. The ads I clicked to read were both hilarious and pathetic. I also read missed connections out of boredom. I could see how that would look bad if my husband had gone though my phone. Luckily, we trust one another and this isn't something we deal with.
The fact that he was looking in a city he's going out of town to sounds suspicious. If he was unhappy with your sex life, he should have come to you. I would be very careful. Porn is one thing, it's a fantasy. But anyone one that has a telephone number attached to them that can be easily accessible and urges acted on is a different situation entirely.
The fact that he was searching them in the area he was traveling to, where he would be without his wife, is a huge red flag to me. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this I agree with others that it's very suspicious that he was looking at these ads while he was out of town.
Not that I necessarily condone snooping but is there a way you can figure out if he responded to any of the ads? I'm going to play devils advocate - okay, I agree it looks bad, and I'm certainly glad you called him on it But what if it is just a fantasy? Just a way to satisfy needs without putting you under any pressure to have sex more frequently?
If so, then maybe it isn't worth the stress or fight. If this is his first offence, I would just drop it, trust his answer, and move on. A second offence would be dealt harsh penalties. That said, if it really bothers you - I wouldn't feel bad about asking him not to do it anymore - and he should respect that.
The majority of my friends would agree with me on this stance, especially the females that wouldn't touch a guy that's been with a prostitute with a foot pole. I don't pick up prostitutes, But people's actions are not always points of pride. Now if you mean, "well you wouldn't tell others" therefore it's wrong That simply doesn't make sense as everyone has flaws that they prefer to keep to themselves. Problem here is that you have your own understanding of what sex is about, how it should be exchanged, and those who don't agree with your prospective on sex, are losers.
Different societies, cultures, and people can see the same act prostitution from different viewpoints. Some people, can live normal lives and "pick up" women at bars if they choose to, and would still rather pay an escort because they can afford it, and just want sex. Maybe they want a threesome, maybe they want an escort offering "pornstar" experiences. Either way, should we as a society celebrate pimps and johns, probably not. But are you in a position, to judge the decisions of others and conclude that they should go to bars to get laid "if they deserve it" or else they're losers?
How about that beautiful stripper in Vegas who takes your friend to the back room and jerks him off as he pays her? Wow, what a fucking loser he must be. You seem hypocritical, have you never bought a gift or service for your significant other? One way or the other, everyone pays for sex. Do Your Boobs Hang Low? Do They Wobble to and Fro?
Can You Tie Them in a Knot? Can You Tie Them in a Bow? Prob because the escort world, the way that it is run given the illegality at this time , doesn't have fantastic business practices, and tends to attract vulnerable demographics without options. Yes, yes, there is a percentage of women who choose the profession, but again, given the criminal and unregulated nature of sexual transactions in the current climate , it makes for a seedier underground environment prone to violence, trafficking, disease, predation, etc.
You should read some of his stuff and see what you think. Here's a bit from linked Wikipedia article about Prostitution in Canada:. Prostitution in Canada is legal, as there are no laws prohibiting the exchange of sex for money. On the 20th December , the Supreme Court of Canada found the laws prohibiting brothels, public communication for the purpose of prostitution, and living on the profits of prostitution to be unconstitutional.
The ruling gives the Canadian parliament 12 months to rewrite the prostitution laws; in the meantime, anti-prostitution laws will continue to be enforced. While the prohibition of the activities surrounding the sex trade makes it difficult to practice prostitution without breaking any law, the act of exchanging sex for money has never been illegal in Canada, a situation which has created and continues to create confusion and controversy.
The prostitution laws have been largely unchanged since the early 19th century despite frequent commissions, studies and constitutional challenges since the introduction of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms in Will also delete if comment's score is -1 or less. The survival sex trade is different from an escort service. The issues cross over, but they are cousins of one another. It kinda irks me, because I compare it to the pot debate when people say, "But what about meth?
This is an idiotic statement that is regularly made by dullards all over reddit, and usually gets shamed and downvoted. This place has some of the most reactionary, conservative opinions I've ever seen coming from "vancouverites. But Supreme court just ruled the law on prostitution unconstitutional. Parliament has 1 year to re-do the law. Have you try this one? Youre going to spend the same amount going out with cover, drinks for you and whoever you're trying to hook up with and theres a chance you will strike out!
There's a better chance the bar slut wouldn't have had sex with anyone else that day. This means that there's a better chance the bar slut has had a shower since the last time some other dude had his dick in her. I'd say that's a bonus, and worth the leg work. Whatever helps you sleep at night. I'm not much of a one-night stand guy either though, I find it difficult to respect a woman that would go home with a dude after socializing in a bar for a couple hours. You seem to have a weird issue with sex workers so I'm going to share my experience to maybe give you some real context instead of whatever you've built up in your mind.
I've seen an escort a couple times because there's something I like doing that isn't super weird but is a little intense for casual hookups. So when I'm single for a while and have some cash to burn I'll pay for it. They've taken their job seriously and have gone out of their way to make sure I'm comfortable and get my money's worth. It's not something I make a habit of because a it's not cheap and b I'd prefer actual intimacy, but I don't regret my decision to try it at all.
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You seem to be doing your best to live up to your username. Fall off something high. Common Major, up the game a bit. This thread is a month old, creep.
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